Cam Girls–Love…?

Cam Girls And Love… Is It Real?

There is no doubt that cam girls are pretty, seductive, hot. But it doesn’t mean you will like all of them. Because you know, not every cam girl must be pretty to you. She doesn’t have to be your type. Somebody likes busty girls somebody petite girls… But have you ever thought about dating a cam girl  you watch on her cam? Do you think is it possible to make her love you? Do you think she will really love you? How can you be sure about it? Don’t you know what is her job about? To be a cam girl is about pretending, is about playing a role like does an actress. So do you really think is it possible to have a serious relationship with a cam girl?

First of all you must realize why somebody want to be a cam girl and what kind of man is a cam girl. So what is the reason? Why to be a cam girl?  Maybe it is all about sex. They just love speaking about sex and they love much to show other people their body. Maybe they need big attention from guys and this way is great to get what they want. Maybe they are not much self-confident so when guys  want them they feel much better. But maybe it is all about money. You know, bussiness is bussiness nothing personal. They just want your money nothing more. So if you try to ask them for a date do you really think she will say yes and if so do you really think she doesn’t want just your money?

Maybe to be a cam girl is a great way for them to find their soulmate you know, they can choose because lots of guys want them. But the problem is how they can be sure those men are really serious, how they can be sure they don’t want just sex? But it is their problem because chatting watching their cam is about sex and not about love so they should look for their soulmate somewhere else and not among horny guys.

Smart cam girls are professionals and their job is just job so if you want more than sex and  they want it too they will ask you to do it somewhere else. Job is job it’s nothing personal. So then you can chat with them or email them but of course not on their job sites. These girls are perfect and I absolutely respect them.

Unprofessional cam girls just play games with you. They pretend love using words like honey, babe, but you must realize it is just a game! Other unprofessional cam girls are on dating sites. These girls irritate me because I don’t  like liars! And they lie because they pretend they want love but when you contact them they will ask you for watching their cam. But  you don’t want to see them naked, you don’t want to see their porn so… And you must pay for it! But I want love and the cam girl just want my money, why should I pay for being loved, why should I pay for chatting with her to get to know her better not her job but her mind!

So yes, it is possible to find a soulmate among cam girls but only among professional cam girls. If you find a cam girl who is on a dating site and you  will contact her and she will ask you for watching her paying site run away as fast as you can. She just want your money! If you read in someone’s profile something  like this:hot, horny, fun, give me a kiss and I will give you a nice blow job and if someone’s is almost naked in their profile picture it is higly probably the person is a cam girl!

What You Say vs What You Do

What You Say vs What You Really Do

Do you think there is no difference between what you say and what you really do? Really? So read this:

Women can’t live without love but can live without sex. Men can’t live without sex but can live without love. Women give sex to get love and men give love to get sex.

So man will tell a woman how is she amazing, pretty, how much is she so important to him and much more words but the truth is absolutely different. He just only want one thing…

And read this:

Have you ever been on dating site? And how did you choose who to write to? Because the person in the picture lookes so amazing? Women are more smarter in this case than men. Yeah, they also have a look at someone’s dating picture but also and it is very important to them they also read what is written in the profile. Because they know that picture is not enough. You know, picture can be fake, it is really easy to upload a picture of somebody else, I can be Michael Jackson, Mel Gibson but also I can be Madonna, Britney Spears… But when I read what you wrote in your profile I can find out more information about you information that you didn’t write…

Because there is really a difference between what people say and what they really do it is necessary to get to know the truth. Very important is what is hidden because then people can promise you lots of things, they can tell you lots of words but you will know if they are really serious or not. Very important is nonverbal communication:

Nonverbal Communication

is communication without words, even if you you are not speaking you permanently send lots of information about you. So you can tell me how much you love me, how much I am important to you or you never lies, you always keep your word, you can write me that you look for somebody serious, you don’t want to play any games but nonverbal signals you are sending will tell me if it is really true or not.

Nonverbal Communication in Words: Lots of people are concentrated on  what people say but much more important is what words people use, when they use that words and what intonation they use.

Body-Nonverbal Communication: your body is a mirror of your real thoughts, emotions and feelings. You can say that you are ok but your body says that you are unhappy…

Things-Nonverbal Communication: Things talk even if you don’t know about it. Your car, your shoes you wear, your apartment say lots of about you. Your car can say if you are rich or poor, if your car is life or not, if you like order or not…

So now you really know that there is really a difference between what people say and what people do. And now you know how to get to know if somebody lies to you or not. But do you know why people lie to you? First because they want to protect themselves, they don’t want to be hurt, to be misused. And second because they want to hurt you, they want to misuse you.

I don’t judge people who lies to me, I am not angry at them, I don’t hate them. I always try to understand them. And if can help them even if they lied to me. Do you think it is good or bad…?

Google Keywords: nonverbal communication, NLP, body talk

The Power of Emotions

Have you heard about The Power of Emotions? No? So it is time to change it because emotions are very important in our lifes. Could you live without love? Could you live without happiness? Of course not! And love and happiness are emotions, aren’t they? So if emotions are very important for us why we know about them so little? Why lots of people think that reason is more important than emotions? You know, we can’t and may not hide our emotions, all what we can do is transform them… Having emotions is natural, normal for us, humans!

What are emotions and are they bad or good? Well, emotions are just energy nothing more nothing less and if emotions are bad or good depends on how we use use them if we used them for helping people or for hurting them. Remember following word and try to find out more about that word on the Net because the word will make your life much better, because the word will change your life. And the change is for better. The word is:

Emotional Management

Emotional managment is about controlling your emotions. If you control your emotions you won’t be a slave of your emotions any more. And you must be their boss. You know, if you don’t control your emotions, if you are not their boss then your emotions will control you. Emotional managment is about using your heart and reason at the same time. It is about harmony between your heart and your reason, between your emotions and reason.

What Kind of Emotions do we have?

1. Emotions that give you energy

2.Emotions that take your energy

3.Passive Emotions=emotions from Out World(External World); music, movies, people etc. give you some emotions without your effort

4. Active Emotions=are emotions from In World(Internal World); it is about your mind, you use your mind to feel a certain emotion for example love

These types of emotions are not negative and they are not positive. If they become positive or negative depends on how you use them. It depends on situation and your goal you want to reach. For example emotions taking your energy: aggressivity is a emotion that takes your energy. Aggresivity is a emotion that helps you to ventil your internal energy. And you know, sometimes is ok to be aggressive and sometimes not. So sometimes is aggressivity positive and sometimes is negative or better sometimes is aggressivity constructive and sometimes destructive.

What emotions give you energy and what take your energy? If you want to know this right away have a look at Training Emotions below.

Training Emotions

Conctration+Relaxation+Imagination+Sensitivity

1. Concentration=Realizing(feeling) emotions

You must feel as much as you can all your emotions. You must concentrate on them. What is very important is how often you train your realizing emotions and not how long you can feel your emotions.

2. Relaxation

Is very important, because when your mind and your body is really relaxed then you can be more concentrated and you can feel much better your emotions.

3.Imagination

Your imagination can rapidly change your mind, your emotions. So try to imagine with all your senses how you are happy, how you love somebody etc.

4.Sensitivity

The more you will train feeling your emotions the more you will feel them. And you will discover new and new emotions…

Using Emotional Energy

Emotions are energy and you can’t destroy energy. You just can transform it. And that’s why you can’t hide emotions that you dislike because the energy of emotions is still in you and it wait for getting out from your body. So if you don’t want to feel something you must try to transform the emotion and not to try to hide it.

My example: I want to be in contact with somebody but the man doesn’t write me even if I wait for it. And I really feel unpleasant emotions. Hiding emotions won’t help me. So I will use the energy of that unpleasant emotions. And I use them for writing blogs, for contacting other people, for doing what I have always wanted to do. And I guess you used a principle of using emotional energy. Maybe you were angry at somebody and this emotion gave you lots of energy to do something constructive. Or remember when you fell in love with somebody- how much energy you had?

You can use energy of emotions in:

constructive way= when you help people and yourself, when you love somebody, when you smile at somebody, when you feel sorry for somebody etc.

destructive way= when you want to hurt somebody or yourself; playing games with someone’s hear, with someone’s emotions is very destructive. And playing games with someone’s emotions has two ways:

direct way is when I pretend some emotions but my emotions are absolutely different

indirect way is for example when I write you a letter when is written how much you are important to me but then I won’t send you any letter. No matter how much and what you write me I won’t send you any letter…

Emotions are very important in our lifes no matter what other people say. Emotions are our power but also our curse. Emotions can help help us or hurt us. So get to know your emotions and your life will be much much better.

The more you will train your emotions the more you will be their boss and the more they will be intensive. Just imagine this: imagine the situation when you were so happy, when you were the happiest man in the world. And now imagine you could feel this emotion much much much more intensive. Or imagine when you were so in love and how it would be so fantastic to feel love much intensive. Wow, that would be extasy! And you can reach it. All what you have to do is just training your emotions so do it! What are you waiting for?

Planning vs Improvization

What is your goal? Do you want to be rich? Do you want to live in Hollywood and be popular? Do you want to be a singer? Or do you want to date an actor/actress? No matter what goal you have you must know how to reach your goal because if you don’t know nothing about it then you will just dream about it and you know, dreaming is not enough.

How to reach your goal(s)? Keep reading and you will be much better at getting what you want and especially what you need.

1. What is your goal?

You must know what goal to choose, this is very important. Because if you choose a bad goal and you will reach it, you won’t be happy… You must realize that the difference between ‘I want’ and ‘I need’ is really big. Mostly you will be unhappy when you just want something but you don’t need it at all. So choose always your  goals that you want but also that you need and then you will be happy forever.

There is always a primary goal that includes secondary goals. When you concentrate on that secondary goals I mean to reach them then you must reach your main goal.

2. Choosing a way to reach your goal(s)=planning

There are lots of ways to reach your goal. For example you want to be a popular actor. So you must improve your English, your pronunciation, you must know how to express perfectly your emotions, you must know how to get a perfect role for you, how to make people admire and love you and much more… There are lots of ways to reach your goal but so little time. So how to do it?

You must know possibilities=how you can reach your goal and what could happen if you use this way to reach your goal.

You must choose the best ways for you to reach your goal.

One way is not enough because if the way is bad you will be dissapointed and you will loose your time. And remember you must choose ways that you need and not that you just want.

You must know what could happen and always have plan B, plan C etc. If you wanna be rich buy some books about it but that books can be bad so your plan B is to be in contact with someone, who is already rich and who can help you and your plan C is to discuss on the Net with people who wanna be rich like you want to be.

And now you must remeber this:

Concentration+Relaxation+Imagination

You must permanently think of your goal, you must want it so much, you must want to die for it. It just must be your passion. You must be relaxed no matter what happens because when you are relaxed all your body and your brain have lots of energy to reach you goal. So forget about being stressed, stress takes lots of energy that you need for reaching your goals. Imagination is also very important. If you every day or even every second imagine what you can do to reach your goal, if you imagine how much you want it nothing can stop you. Just ask Arnold Schwarzenegger how come he is so successful… Because he used and I guess still uses concentration+relaxation+imagination.

Or are you a guy who doesn’t have any goal? Who just live now and here and dislikes planning? But tell me is it ok? Is it ok not to have any goal? How to use improvization and be successful? So read following lines and you will know it.

Improvization is about your subconscious and not conscious.

You know, you must decide what to do in a very little time.  Just ask cops or soldiers… So you must control your conscious or subconscious or they will control you. And don’t forget improvization is not I will try it and what you know maybe I will be successful… It is always about knowledge! No trying!

You must control your thoughts, emotions and feelings because if you don’t control them then they will control you. If you control them you can use any emotion, any feeling, any thought when is necessary and not because you just want. So you must use concetration+relaxation+imagination to control your mind. Concentrate what you are thinking of now, or what you feel now. If you are relaxed then you can be more concentrated, so train relaxation. You can find lots of relaxation techniques on the Net. So just do it. It will help you! And now imagination. Just imagin what you would feel, what thoughts you would have if you won lottery, if you were popular, if you were so happy etc.  And remember it doesn’t matter how long you do it but what matters a lot is how frequently: once a day, ten times a day or more?

Now you must realize this: what is this emotion, feeling, thought good for? Will they help me or hurt me? What will I win and lose if i am aggressive, attentive, helpful…

If you train regularly, frequently without stress your improvization must be much better than it has been before.

So as you know now there are two kinds of men: a man who loves planning, who has always some goals and a man  who hates planning, to have a goal because he/she wants to be free… What is better to be a goal-oriented people or to be a man without goals? So let’s have a look at this!

Advantage of having goals:

If you know how to plan then almost nothing can suprise you because you know what could happens and you are already ready for it. You always have plan B, plan C, plan D… if something goes wrong. And that’s a big advantage of having goals. And also when you have a goal you don’t waste yourt time, your money, your energy for unnecessary things that are not important for reaching your goal.

Disadvantage of having goals:

You must think so much, you must use your intelligence much because if you have a goal you must know how to reach your goal. How to be successful. You must be a great strategist and tactitian like when you play chess… You must have lots of knowledges and also a great intuition. But the main advantage is that you are stressed because you permanently think of what if I am failure, what if I don’t reach my goal…? The problem is you don’t live here and now but permanently in future!

Advantage of having no goals:

Is mostly about feeling free but the questions is if what you feel is really freedom or something else…You know, you don’t feel any stress because you don’t have to do anything. You do what you want, what you like, what you love. You do it without planning and because you don’t plan anything you are not afraid what could happen because you just don’t think of it.

Disadvantage of having no goals:

You can’t recognize, predict what could happen not because you are an idiot but you are not used to think in this way. You are not used to think about future or about past. You just live here and now. And that’s a big problem. Yeah, it is perfect to live here and now because we don’t live forever and that’s why we don’t have to waste our time… But on the other hand past and future are also as important as presence!

And now the best news for you! You can love to have some goals but also you can love having no goals at the same time. And it is absolutely easy. You just must find harmony between having goals and having no goals. So how to do it? Its about harmony, connecting your planning and improvization. It is about harmony between conscious and subconscious. It is about  about connecting them. I call it relaxed planning.

Relaxed planning: You concentrate on what you want and what you need. Without stress you are just relaxed as much as you can. The answer what you want and need  will show up by itself. Then you concentrate on how to reach your goals. You are again relaxed as much as you can. And again ways to reach your goals will show up by themselves. So now you must use your reason if it is really real or not. And then use concetration,relaxation and imagination to reach your goals and train controlling your emotions, thoughts and feelings. That’s all.

Higher Level of Sex

Lets Have Higher Level Of Sex

Higher level of sex is about:

connecting your body and mind(spirit, soul) thru sex energy. It’s about when you and your partner are one, when your bodies and minds are connected, when your thoughts, emotions and feelings and emotions, feelings and feelings of your partner are connected. It’s about improving your sensuality, improving your outer and inner senses, it’s about feeling, controling and transforming your sexual energy. Don’t you know sex is about your internal energy? It’s not only about orgasm. Don’t you know anything else just orgasm? You may know that sex can heal so you may know sexual healing techniques or am I wrong? It’s abour spirituality. We are not animals so we dont’ have to have sex like animals, we are humans so have sex like humans what means use body+mind sex and not just body sex…And this higher level of sex, this body–mind sex you can learn in Tantra. Tantra is about awakening your mind, your heart, your senses, about your sexual energy. You may know Kamasutra . But Kamasutra and Tantra are different. Kamasutra is about sexual positions but Tantra offers something much deeper… Tantra is also calles as the art of sexual extasy or the art of love ,so if you look a way how to connect love and sex, Tantra is the right thing for you.

Try these google keywords:

female(woman) sexual extasy, male(man) sexual extasy, tantra, tantric sex, spiritual sex, free ebooks tantra

Accelerated Learning

ACCELERATED LEARNING (SUPERLEARNING)

You can find quite lots of information about accelerated learning but unfortunately it would take you lot of time to find information that are important. Usually you will find commercial advertisements. Most popular term for accelerated leaning is Superlearning but you can also hear words as Brain Friendly Learning, Alpha Learning, Holistic Learning etc. No matter how you call it if Superlearning or Accelerated learning because the differencies between them are minor. But there is a big problem. Everyone claim that they use Accelerated Learning but the truth is different… And that’s why I looked for what is accelerated learning about, what principles accelerated learning you will use using accelerated learning. By the way, can you recognize from a word Superlearning or Accelerated Learning what are they about? Of course not. A word super is just a commercial word: this car is super, our bank is super… And accelerated learning? I don’t know how fast I will learn, what principles I will use… And that’s why I prefer using a term relaxed learning because then everyone know what is this method about. About relaxation.

Learning or teaching is always about mental techniques so accelerated learning is about using some mental techniques. It is not about memorizing. For example if you want to learn a foreign language you don’t have to repeat foreing words many many times because it is not natural for our brain. Accelerated learning is perfect for learning foreign langugages but you can use it for learning everything. I would love to get accelerated learning in martial arts, that would be great, wouldn’t be? And now there are some very important principles:

Very important is to get to know what is natural for our brain. No matter how you want to learn but how you brain really learns. It is also called as Naturally Learning(Teaching).

1. Relaxation
When you want to learn something it is highly recommended to relax your body and mind. Then your learning will be fun and much easier. It is absolutely differently from learning in schools where you are mostly stressed learning something and that’s why lots of students leaving a school don’t want to learn anything anymore; Our brain has four brainwaves types: Beta, Alpha, Theta and Delta. Accelerated learning is about learning in Alpha brainwaves.

2. Concentration
Is very important no matter what you do. Without concentration you can’t be successful. So in accelerated learning except of relaxation techniques you will also learn some concentration techniques.

3. Imagination
Imagination is about using your internal senses. Most used is internal eyes=vizualization. But much better is to use all your senses. Just imagine what you see, what you hear, what you smell, what you feel or what you taste. Use as much as you can all of our five senses.

4. Emotions, Feelings and Thoughts Managment
Everything what will happen to you is strongly influnced by your emotions, feelings and thoughts. If you want to be rich change your mind= change your emotions, feelings and thoughts and you will change the way you think and then it is highly probably you will reach your goals.

5. Connecting Theory and Practice
Mostly theory and practice are thought separately but this is not natural. Don’t you remember how you learned when you have a kid? No learning first theory and after some time to practice what you learned but as a kid you learned theory and practice at the same time. This principle used John Amos Comenius: learning by game

6. Knowledge about your brain
How fast you can learn what means how many information you can learn, how long you can remember what you have learned, what type of student you are etc.

And now I will give you some links:

http://www.jwelford.demon.co.uk/brainwaremap/holist.html

http://www.crystalinks.com/medbrain.html

http://groups.msn.com/Suggestopedyacreativeholisticwayofteaching
lozanov.hit.bg
en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Neuro-linguistic_programming
www.brainfriendlylearning.org/

But best way to learn principles of accelerated learning is to attend a NLP class, it is easer to find a teacher, it is faster and I guess even cheaper.

The Art Of Enjoying Life

Living Life To The Fullest

(The Art Of Enjoying Life)

1. What is YOUR definition of living life to the fullest?

My definition of living life to the fullest: I think living life to the fullest is different for everyone. My definition is being mindful of every moment and trying always to live in the present moment. Not that that always happens, but that’s what I strive for. There is no time to “waste,” I don’t have enough of it as it is!

2. What is your definition of happiness?

My definition of happiness: there two types of happiness = outer happiness and inner happiness. Lots of people look for their happines around them, they think the real happiness you can find when you have lots of money, when you are popular, when you have what you want to have, when you do what you want to do. But is it really true? Are they really happy? I look for happiness somewhere else. I look for happiness in my mind. Because you may not know but happines is your state of your mind. Happiness is in you and not somewhere outside. It’s about inner balance and harmony. And because you can control your mind you can be happy forever no matter what could happen to you… You don’t have to believe me just try it and let me know if I am wrong…

3. How to do it?

You can look for your happiness around you but this is temporary happiness. But if you look for your happiness in your mind you will be almost permanently happy. But it depends on what you want. And especially you must concentrate on what you need and not what you want because we want lots of things and then we will find out it won’t make us happy…

Use Time Management: Your time is very expensive so be careful who you will give your time! And stop being destructive, being nervous, unhappy, sad… Because there is no time for it! Don’t waste your time! You must decide who you will give your time, you must control your time. You must live here and now! How can you live your life to the fullest when you permanently live in the past or in the future?

Use Emotion Management:it is about having relaxed mind, about controling your emotions, feelings and thoughts. It’s about internal smile so smile as much as you can. You must control your emotions because if you don’t control them then they will control you. Just try to concentrate on some emotion as long as you can. Do it regularly and you will be succesful. Just remember when you were the happiest man in the world and concentrate on it what you are feeling.

Living to the fullest and be happy is about your Mind, is about controlling your Emotions, Feelings and Thoughts. It is about controlling your Time. Don’t be a slave of time! DOn’t be a slave of your emotions, feelings and thoughts. You must control them, you must be their boss!

Famous or Rich

Do you want to be famous or rich?

Have you ever wanted to be rich? Have you ever wanted to be famous? I guess so. But tell me why? And is it bad or good to be rich, to be famous?

Why do you want to be rich? And do you think is it bad or good to be rich?  Do you want to have money because of you or because of other people?  Do you know what is the difference between it? Yes? So keep reading and maybe you will get to know something interesting…

Yeah, I want to be rich. I want to have lots of money. I want to have plenty of money. I want to have money because then my life will be much easier. I can buy everything what I want and what I need because you know, nothing is for free. I want to have lots of money because then people will love me, then I will have lots of friends, then I won’t be worried any more. Do you think is it true or is it just illusion? Yes, you can have lots of people who could be your friends but are they your friends because of you because of what you are or because what you have because of your money? Do you really think when you have money you will be never worried? Don’t you know that somebody could want to steal your money? Do you really think you can buy everything? Really? So read this: you can’t buy my love, you can’t buy my friendship, you can’t buy my respect, you can’t buy your health, you can’t buy your happiness. Yes, I can pretend I am your friend, I can pretend I love you, I can pretend I respect you but I all do it for your money and not because of you and that’s a big difference. You can’t buy happiness, love, don’t you get it? If you think you can so then give me proof. Because I know it is not true!

Money is just tools nothing more.  Money can’t give you any positive emotions like love, happiness because they is dead so it just can’t do that. And that’s why you can’t get real friends, real soulmate because you have money. Because friendship, relationship is about exchanging your emotions with other people. And money can’t do that because money is dead, because it doesn’t have any emotions!

Money is good for having better life. You won’t hungry any more. You won’t be thirsty any more. You just can do what you need and not just what you want. But realize this: People are more more more important than money. Who created money? We people! So don’t be a slave of money! By the way, if people won’t accept money any more then you can your money throw out from your window. Because we people give money the power so don’t forget it money is dead money is here for us and not we are here for it! And that’s why it depends how you use your money. If your money help people then money is great but if you use the money to hurt people then money is bad. But you know money can’t be good or bad because it is dead. We are who use money and not money use us!

Have you ever wanted to be famous? I guess so. But tell me why? And is it bad or good to be famous? Why do you want to be famous?  Do you want to want to be famous because of you or because of other people?  Do you know what is the difference between it? You know what I wrote about money…. Famous is just a thing so don’st be a slave of famous. Famous exists because of you and not you exist because of famous. Famous is not your goal but your way how to get what you want and especially what you need. Famous can’t be bad or good because famous is dead. People are bad or good don’t forget it!

I want to be so much rich and so much famous and so much popular because to be famous doesn’t mean people also like you.  I want to be rich, popular and famous but not because of me but because of other people. I want to help them and you know, I can help them if I am rich because then I can buy them lots of things. Money is here for buying things don’t forget it! If I am popular and famous I can help lots of people even if I am pure. Because other people who have lots of money will help other people because of me.

So I don’t give a damn how much money you have, if you are popular, if you are famous or who you know. It is not important to me! What is very imporant to me is YOU!

Internet Identity

Websites with dating profiles, social networking websites as myspace, tagged, chating online are about internet identity. But are you sure you really know the man who are you in contact with? Do you think that people on the Net always say the truth and nothing more than truth? Of course not! People lie in normal life when you meet them face to face so why the would say the truth on the Net when they are quite anonymous? But I have a bad news for those people: nobody is perfectly anonymous…

So let’s have a look at personal profiles that you can find on myspace… You can read in someone’s profile where they live, their profession, their age or gender and much more. But the question is if the information are real or they are just fakes. It is really easy to pretend I am a woman even if I am a man. It is very easy to pretend my age, location etc. So the right question is how can I recognize if somebody pretends something? And another question also very important is what is the reason to pretend something on the Net?

Why does somebody pretend something on the Net? It could be because of following reasons but you may find other reasons that I didn’t mentioned.

First:

They are not sincere in their Internet profiles because they protect themselves. OK I understand it we don’t live in paradise… Somebody could misuse your information. But why to lie about your age? Why to lie about your first name, I understand why you lie about your last name, but your first name? Why to lie about your location? I understand why you lie about your  job or how much money you earn. It is understandable. No body wants to be misused because he/she has big money. And if somebody has little money that man doesn’t want to speak about it… You don’t want to be misused because of your job. For example if you are an actress or a singer then you are afraid that somebody is in contact with you not because of you but because of your job. And people who doesn’t have any pic in their profile or even they have a fake pic have the same reason like people who lies about their job and income.

They lie because they are so afraid of being misused!

Second:

Your reason is not to protect yourself but to play games with somebody or even to hurt somebody. Maybe you are curious what will happen if you  pretend you are famous. Maybe you are a student of psychology and you test people’s reactions… Maybe you are somebody from Africa and you want  money from somebody- don’t tell me you have never get a mail where they ask you for your money to help or where you were asked for money assistance… Maybe you are somebody who want to get out from your  country… Maybe those people are cam girls who want your money…

They pretend something because they want to play games with you or even they want to hurt you. They want to misuse you!

And how can you recognize if somebody is real and not only ilusion?

First- ask questions:

You can use a direct way or an indirect way. The direct way is: are you really from that city? Is the person in the picture that you have in your profile really you? The indirect way is: so I read in your profile you are from Africa, what time do you have there? I read in your profile you are a lawyer so what do you think about the new law of…

Asking questions has direct and indirect ways. For asking questions to get to know the truth you must know something about what you are asking.

Second-ask for proof

Does somebody claim that he/she is from California? So show me the latest newspapers or show me your ID. So you have a pic of some famous man in your profile so show me your real face on your webcam.

Asking for proofs is one of the best way how to get to know the truth about something.

I don’t hate people who pretend something on the Net. I quite understand them. But it doesn’t mean I agree with them. There is always a way how to tell the truth without liying so why to lie? So if you are one of people who pretend something on the Net be sure I don’t hate you. Be sure I try to understand you so you may can help me to understand you much better…

Call Me-No Answer

I gave you my phone number to call me. And I expected you would really do that. But you didn’t… So what do I think about you? What are my opinions about you? What do I feel? And what will I do when I meet you again face to face?

I gave you my ID of my messenger to have a chat with you. Because I like you and I would love to get to know you better. But even if I am almost permanently online there is no reaction from you. What the hell is going on? Don’t you want to communicate with me or is there another problem? But you know, there is no problem to be honest to tell me you donť want to have a chat with me. I wouldn’t be angry. But if you pretend something… Don’t you have any idea what I feel know? Don’t you have any idea what  I think about you? No? So just watch my inner world and if you are a good man you will let me know if you are interested in me or not. But if you are an egoistic, fucking man who plays games with someone’s heart, who feels like a boss when you hurt somebody, who is more self-confident when you play with me…  I’ve got  a really bad new for you: FUCK YOU! You are not better man than iI so go to the hell because you ignore me. You are not the one who can make me happy so go away from me I will find sombody else who will be better than you. And even if you have never called me, even if you have never writen me I will be the happiest man in the world! Why? Maybe because I will never get to know your bad mind or maybe because I know something what is called inner happiness or maybe because I am drunk…

When I gave you my phone number, when I gave you my messenger ID I had been  so happy. You know I had so romantic thoughts. And I really waited for your call, for your message.But the more I waited the more I was nervous. “What’s going on?” I spoke to myself. Maybe she(he) can’t contact me. Maybe she(he) lost my contacts on me. What the hell should I do? Call her(his)? But what if she(her) just ignore me? I am not so desperate to beg for calling me. I am not so desperate to beg for your attention. But what if she(he) is the one? What if… Lots of negative thoughts in my mind…

Do you know this situation? Yes? And what did you do? Were you angry, nervous or desperate? OK.  You are not alone. Lots of people have an experience like this. And be constructive, have positive mind. And then you will find what you are looking for. Who could love you when you don’t love yourself? Who could be with you when you are  so unhappy? Who could fall in love with you when you are stressed and nervous. Just be yourself, free and happy!